Removing Condoms Without Consent | Via Hufington Post

Condom“Stealthing,” the fact that there is an online comunity encouraging such behavior suggests to me complisity in a crime. Stealthing is non-consensual sex and is potentially fatal.

A new study explores the phenomenon of “stealthing” ― the purposefully nonconsensual removal of condoms during sex ― and how those who fall victim to the … Read More

Choose Pussy over Pain

Choose Pussy over PainIn the video Choose Pussy over Pain, Cidney Green shares a profound grasp of the obvious and lives it in the flesh. A critique of being offended by nudity but viral sharing of real violence like fight videos and cops shooting unarmed people. May you be a light unto us all … Read More

How to question love ideals | By Todd Vickers at Vivriti.org

Love idealsIntimate relationships and love ideals are a touchy topic anywhere, but the consequences of marriage, relationship breakups, and vengeance for rejection should make us willing to scrutinize our beliefs.  Ideals should not blind us to facts. In some countries, divorce is almost impossible due to the force of custom, but custom itself does not make … Read More

4 reasons a sense of wonder is important in a beautiful life

WonderWonder in a beautiful life | Todd Vickers via Vivriti.org

1. There can be no surprise without discovery.

Discovery is like a free fall; a new understanding of something previously taken for granted; a surprise affection, something beautiful or new knowledge. With discovery we are thrust into the moment. The experience is vitalizing, it awakens our senses. Think … Read More

How to truthfully have intimate relationship | Todd Vickers via Vivriti.org

intimate relationshipExcerpt: “…To be unaware of how we conceive intimate relationship leads to treating our questionable beliefs as fact. Let’s look at some problems and then solutions.

Don’t become cynical in intimate relationship. Find those people who value the truth.

On one hand, the hope for something better drives human discovery; meaning trial and error. On … Read More

Sex Impact – Indian Youth Suicide | Published at Vivriti.org

Youth SuicideYouth Suicide; more educated young people kill themselves in India, why? Todd Vickers looks at one part of the problem, the stifling of sexuality to conform with tradition.

Remember the problem is youth suicide, not the emotional discomfort of  those who adhere to a custom. Let’s keep the priorities straight.

“The truthfulness needed may go far beyond what … Read More

Sex Power – Media Offering Vicarious Pleasure

sex powerWhat is sex power? It’s no trivial fact that almost every human being you meet  longs for sexual joy, and those who understand that fact have power. Unfortunately, shame, possessive-ness, questionable beliefs and the tendency to use people as a means place sex power in the hands of advertisers, religion, and people who are willing to take advantage or deceive. Our … Read More

How to Find Your New Life | Todd writes for Vivriti.org

find new life“How to find new life? You follow the impulses toward a better life, even when it’s hard. That is what I do, and it’s not easy but the alternative is a prison of routine and amusement seeking to avoid feeling dead. Remember the sprout struggles out of the seed. The chick struggles out of the shell, … Read More

Understanding Relationships Nurturing Love | Todd Vickers writes for Vivriti.org

Understanding RelationshipsUnderstanding relationships means understanding pain. This is vital if we wish to bring relief to useless suffering. To reduce useless pain is nurturing to love.  But what does that actually mean?

Understand two sources of suffering.

One source is fact based, some event like a toothache, the loss of someone loved, … Read More

Slut Shaming Cultural Differences | Todd Vickers writing at Vivriti.org

slut shamingAnyone involved in slut shaming does not want girls to have freedom, to wear whatever they want, to like whoever they like (including boys), to speak boldly etc., whatever excuse these ‘perhaps’ well-meaning people offer, they indulge in power over girls when they use shame. This shame is an abuse. We can train a cat to fear a mouse by shocking it … Read More

How to improve our love

How to improve our love

How to improve our love?

First let’s begin with a short alagory to set the tone

‘When born into a den of thieves, a Buddha learns to steal.’

 

We’re born into a Machiavellian world of love songs, stories, religion, ads, movies, half-truths and falsehoods about … Read More

Todd Vickers writing at Vivriti.org – Freedom – Women’s day

Freedom

What is Freedom

A donkey chooses to pursue a carrot dangled in front of its face and thereby pulls the farmers cart. That isn’t what we mean by freedom.

The donkeys choice is constrained by bondage. The denial of alternatives let’s us know it is something far less than freedom…. Read More

Love wants to live

Love wants to liveWe want love. Many of us will say that it’s one of the most important things in our lives. Love wants to live!

When we distinguish what we see in relationships from our sentiment ABOUT relationships, it seems that a great deal of what passes for love rests on fear: practical fears, fear of the unknown, fear … Read More

Renouncing the limits of love | Todd Vickers on Vivriti.org

renouncing loves limitsWhy aren’t we renouncing loves limits? “Who do you know who does not place a boundary around his love? We are afraid others will use us and that our desire for love makes us foolish. In deference to this fear, we try to be smart and use others in the name of love for our … Read More

Leaving dead relationships

Leaving dead relationshipsLet’s start leaving dead relationships. Some people hold love hostage. Hiding behind a mask, they threaten to kill love if another doesn’t submit to spoken or unspoken demands. Sometimes a piece of love is cut off, a warning, just to prove that they are serious. Only the mind perpetrates such terrorism, mind with its boundless expectations. … Read More

Slut shaming on social networks

Since the January 21st Woman’s March, I’ve seen a lot of slut shaming on social networks.

Memes with scantily clad celebrities who might hold views on non sexual issues like the scientific consensus on climate change or the US accepting of political refugees. They may also state opinions on the right to comprehensive sex education, birth control, and legal abortion. Such women in the limelight … Read More

Lovers in friendship vs. being a player

I use the phrase ‘friendly sex’ because the term ‘casual sex‘ is cliché, and leads to confusion. I suggest a lovers friendship in consenting pleasure is better when we include higher qualities in the affection. These qualities are not a function of time, they can happen quickly, slowly, or not at all. More on this later. Such love exists outside … Read More

My ever changing sexuality

changing sexualityMy ever changing sexuality really began as a teen, I grew my sexual legs in a free love community of spiritual seekers, my views of this ever changing sexuality are quite non-traditional. I know the world is far bigger than many people imagine it and that we need not be drugged to break out and experience it. That big world requires intelligence and … Read More

An allegory applied to relationships

Relationship allegoryImagination is risky when we fill in the unknown. Below is an ancient story I use as a relationship allegory that exposes the mistake of thinking we know when we don’t.

“A man awakened before the sunrise. He decided to walk the path to work in the forest along the river in the dark. He walked the same path for years … Read More

Christians cut off a young girls clit in USA

The reason to scrutinize religion is because religion can be terribly harmful. The example and it is not unique. The irrational fear that some religion instills around sex harms countless people.

“A Christian doctor removed my clitoris when I was three years old as a ‘cure’ for masturbation, writes Renee Bergstrom”… Read more at The Guardian