More Examples of Relationship Mythology
If you want more intimacy, then make a commitment.
If you keep your commitments, you will be happy.
If you are a good lover, your partner will not desire others.
You can avoid jealousy in poylamorous or open relationships, if you follow the rules.
Anything the world might avail me will be flawed if differences exist between it and my ideal.
If you
- lose weight,
- get plastic surgery,
- color your hair,
- get a better job,
- open your marriage/relationship,
- act tough or sweet,
- etc, Ad Nauseam,
then you will …
A. find a lover.
B. keep your spouse or lover.
The best we can say of these unfounded beliefs is that they are unreliable. A chickens instinct causes it to brood on a wooden egg. Our human cognitive ability to anticipate and make decisions based on unrealistic expectations causes us to deceive ourselves. Years that we cannot replace are often at stake when we make life changing decisions guided by prejudiced ideas about circumstances and not the facts.