Love is not a routine and cannot be reduced to a preconceived idea without killing it.
A little slide show examining common views about non-monogamy. The sexual revolution has yet to begin.
The talk “Polyamory Without Pathos” at Saguaro Man went well. Such a deep subject is impossible to delve into properly in just an hour. Below, I will broach several points mentioned during the talk.
We talked about what I call ‘tragic fiction,’ which is treating something imagined as real and imposing the emotion induced on others. Such behavior endangers affections. … Read More
Possessiveness is a bad idea
A wonderful short documentary about the Bonobo Ape. This make love not war, sex for joy sake creature, raises a question about ourselves. Not that we should live in trees. Though I’m not against that mind you. I’m just noting one difference between the Bonobo and the violent Chimpanzee that dominates females.
I became an adult as part of … Read More
The angst often associated with relationships may not be because a a problem exists, but because the events are different than our expectations.
We tend to cling to beliefs when we feel out of control and we use power to defend them. The use of emotional blackmail, coercion, wild accusations and threats to … Read More
Is jealousy natural? Cancer is natural, and so is our appendix. Is jealousy instinctive? Even if we assume it so, our ability to adapt beyond genetic limits is also natural. But anthropology gives us many examples of human sexuality beyond monogamy. Perhaps many of our beliefs about sex are arbitrary based on where and when we were born.
We do not grow new eyes; we create … Read More
