Consciously orgasmic at 71 – ongoing discovery

 

I am seventy-one but I discovered my orgasm at twenty-five Conscious sexualityand enjoyed a great deal of orgasmic sex in the years after; until I experienced what I shall describe as a time of sexual hibernation. Thankfully, I went on to re-emerge from that hibernation, and I want to share my experience of a new … Read More

Help Build Burning Man Consent Culture

Donate to BedNow you can help BED (Bureau of Erotic Discourse) by contributing and sharing on social networks. Wear our buttons with pride! Help BED spread the word and raise funds to educate as many burners as possible about a sex positive culture of consent. 

Join our fundraising efforts and help make this year the most fun … Read More

Without holding back

Without holding back

Share the love while you can, without holding back. One day we will not be able to share it and then it’s too late. Use intelligence to make loving harmless.

How to compare loving non-monogamy versus codependent monogamy

loving non-monogamyThe desire to know and share what’s true, to share what’s best in life, to love wholly without restraint, to live intensely! These values did not arise in me out of virtue, oh no! They BEGAN to clarify because of loss. My most beloved, died when I was nine. The tears that I feared would never end washed … Read More

Bullshit hypnotic manipulation imposes sexual beliefs

hypnotic manipulationMonogamy is a possessive ideology. It presumes to predict the future and often fails. Monogamy becomes a prison for affections and often kills the love that it hoped to protect. In many cases, monogamy is a maladaptation imposed by culturally redundant hypnotic manipulations. When we are actually living in a world where many people live outside of … Read More

Boldly Vulnerable Sexual Affection at Burning Man

Sexual AffectionWe live in a highly sexual culture that also idolizes utility (i.e., a means to an end). We tend to value things only based on what they lead to in the future. This commerce morality often mistakes the means for the end and, therefore, misses the end. To judge joy and sexual … Read More

Sexual Relationship Evolution

Some of us look upon sexual relationship evolution with a fear or envy. Most of our grandparents would look upon our sexual relations today with disapproval, yet they passed on to us the genetic tendency to adapt.

Today sexual relations are more fair then they were in the past, particularly for women, in spite of the need for more … Read More

Button Suggestions – Voting for 2017 BRC Burn

Bureau of Erotic DiscourseThe Bureau of Erotic Discourse seeks new ideas for the coveted pins to give away at Burning Man this year.

Please offer your new button content suggestions in the comment section of this page below the images and up vote the content you would most like to see.

 

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Love relationships sex non-monogamy doubting couple privilege

Couple privilegeFive reasons ‘Couple privilege’ doesn’t exist

By Lola Phoenix: Lola is a non-binary queer future best selling sci-fi/fantasy novelist in her late twenties.

I’ve seen this concept floating around for … Read More

Dispute monogamy for 5 more reasons

dispute monogamy I dispute monogamy and I hope that my monogamous brothers and sisters understand that it is not just the failures of monogamy that provoke the contempt, ever perceptible in my writing. The world is imperfect and I accept the imperfections of society, yet I do not condone bad ideals or a society that refuses to realize … Read More

What we think about love, sex and art changes things

about loveIn the west the propaganda of religion is probably not as pervasive as are the songs, representations, and symbolism about love. We know how different religious influences change the interpretation of a fact. Now consider how everyone is a philosopher about love over coffee, but most people, do not want their love philosophies scrutinized. Most love philosophies are … Read More

Changing our views of love

love like water

Love like water.

Instead of saying we have different kinds of love, such as, one kind for friends, another for family, and another then lovers. I ask, what if we have only one love that takes different forms, like the way water conforms itself to the present situation? If love like water resonates with you, … Read More

Sex Education | Video with John Oliver

Sex EducationOnce again the inimitable John Oliver exposes the weakness of American abstinance sex eduducation and with humor at the end, offers his own sex education video.

Watch and enjoy.

 

 

 

Photo of John Oliver By TechCrunch – The 7th Annual Crunchies Awards on February 10, 2014 in San Francisco, CC BY 2.0, … Read More

One sexually daring woman degraded by custom

sexually daringI want to respect the trial and error of a sexually daring woman who is now dead, and expose the all too common error for the sake of others. This writing is not merely a eulogy for a sexually daring woman whom I will refer to by her first name, these words are more than a remembrance for … Read More

Removing Condoms Without Consent | Via Hufington Post

Condom“Stealthing,” the fact that there is an online comunity encouraging such behavior suggests to me complisity in a crime. Stealthing is non-consensual sex and is potentially fatal.

A new study explores the phenomenon of “stealthing” ― the purposefully nonconsensual removal of condoms during sex ― and how those who fall victim to … Read More

Choose Pussy over Pain

Choose Pussy over PainIn the video Choose Pussy over Pain, Cidney Green shares a profound grasp of the obvious and lives it in the flesh. A critique of being offended by nudity but viral sharing of real violence like fight videos and cops shooting unarmed people. May you be a light unto us … Read More

How to question love ideals | By Todd Vickers at Vivriti.org

Love idealsIntimate relationships and love ideals are a touchy topic anywhere, but the consequences of marriage, relationship breakups, and vengeance for rejection should make us willing to scrutinize our beliefs.  Ideals should not blind us to facts. In some countries, divorce is almost impossible due to the force of custom, but custom itself does not … Read More

4 reasons a sense of wonder is important in a beautiful life

WonderWonder in a beautiful life | Todd Vickers via Vivriti.org

1. There can be no surprise without discovery.

Discovery is like a free fall; a new understanding of something previously taken for granted; a surprise affection, something beautiful or new knowledge. With discovery we are thrust into the moment. The experience is vitalizing, it awakens our senses. … Read More

How to truthfully have intimate relationship | Todd Vickers via Vivriti.org

intimate relationshipExcerpt: “…To be unaware of how we conceive intimate relationship leads to treating our questionable beliefs as fact. Let’s look at some problems and then solutions.

Don’t become cynical in intimate relationship. Find those people who value the truth.

On one hand, the hope for something better drives human discovery; meaning trial and error. … Read More

Sex Impact – Indian Youth Suicide | Published at Vivriti.org

Youth SuicideYouth Suicide; more educated young people kill themselves in India, why? Todd Vickers looks at one part of the problem, the stifling of sexuality to conform with tradition.

Remember the problem is youth suicide, not the emotional discomfort of  those who adhere to a custom. Let’s keep the priorities straight.

“The truthfulness needed may go far beyond … Read More