Todd Vickers, Author at No Shame in Sex

Argh! Lip service to tradition! What is Orwellian Polyamory?

By Todd Vickers 2023/06/03 2023/06/03 Non-monogamy

Discover the truth about non-monogamy and why it’s not the morally equivalent to monogamy in this eye-opening video! Possessiveness, and non-possessiveness are opposites! You may enjoy reading The Polyamorous Caravan 2 Excerpt: “Many non-traditional folks carry conclusions that seem to rest on bias left over from tradition… I explain how such ideas are a superstitions relationship mythology.” Read More

The Gift of Kink

By Todd Vickers 2023/03/08 2023/04/02 Uncategorized

Pleasure for its own sake becomes a part of a life well lived. Pleasure and or experience is valuable even if it leads to nothing beyond that event itself. Read More

The Eros of Psyche

By Todd Vickers 2019/10/30 2023/02/08 video

The eros of the psyche does NOT limit its power to assumed roles of dominant and submissive. It moves within an individual and also moves from one living being to another. It’s so vulnerable, it will be tempting to stop because unlike the physical body, the psyche has no physical limits. That’s how out of control it feels.
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Unreasonable Respect For Old Relationship Beliefs

By Todd Vickers 2019/06/02 2022/11/16 relationships

Why would I say there is unreasonable respect for old relationship beliefs? At a party, a woman lamented that she had to divide all her assets twice in two divorces. She said the next time she gets married, the man will have more stuff than her. When three people asked why she would get married again, she replied in a circular way, “I’m just the marrying type.” And the conversation ended since there seemed no point. If someone answered the question, why do you repeatedly… Read More

Foolish men blocking abortion

By Todd Vickers 2019/05/19 2022/11/16 sex education

Why are foolish men blocking abortion? Foolish men that think they can control women, they only tyrannize. Even those unfortunate ones who, do to circumstances or a manufactured torpidity, succumb to your sexual foot-binding, they circumvent your power every time they lie. It’s easy to support the beliefs of the self satisfied. A little flattery and parroting your beliefs and you’re convinced. Unthinking fools! Do you not see those Catholic School girls who take up a collection for a friend that is “in trouble?” You’re… Read More

What Are Confused Sexual Ideals?

By Todd Vickers 2019/05/12 2022/11/16 relationships

A great deal of confused sexual ideals and misunderstanding exists around relationships and what we want. This topic is meaningful to both joy and misery. It’s not that articles about how to achieve ideals are uncommon, it’s understanding and questioning the ideals themselves that is uncommon. What I mean by confused sexual ideals is we use the word ideal in three utterly different ways. If we are clear about how the word is being used, we can avoid costly and painful misunderstandings. The first meaning… Read More

Consciously orgasmic at 71 – ongoing discovery

By Todd Vickers 2018/10/01 2019/05/08 Discovery

I am seventy-one but I discovered my orgasm at twenty-five and enjoyed a great deal of orgasmic sex in the years after; until I experienced what I shall describe as a time of sexual hibernation. Thankfully, I went on to re-emerge from that hibernation, and I want to share my experience of a new sexual blossoming in what are my twilight years. I’ll begin my insight into sexual experiences with a question: Why reach for a more conscious sexuality? The actuality is that we either… Read More

How to compare loving non-monogamy versus codependent monogamy

By Todd Vickers 2017/12/16 2017/12/16 relationships

The desire to know and share what’s true, to share what’s best in life, to love wholly without restraint, to live intensely! These values did not arise in me out of virtue, oh no! They BEGAN to clarify because of loss. My most beloved, died when I was nine. The tears that I feared would never end washed the dust from a jewel. Why should I fear to tell the truth, or a broken heart? I already know l will lose you, THIS is the… Read More

Bullshit hypnotic manipulation imposes sexual beliefs

By Todd Vickers 2017/11/03 2017/11/03 Culture Critique

Monogamy is a possessive ideology. It presumes to predict the future and often fails. Monogamy becomes a prison for affections and often kills the love that it hoped to protect. In many cases, monogamy is a maladaptation imposed by culturally redundant hypnotic manipulations. When we are actually living in a world where many people live outside of monogamy (honestly or not,) then let’s meet that fact truthfully and adapt to the world the way it is. Polyamory and other forms of ethical non-monogamy exemplify our… Read More

Boldly Vulnerable Sexual Affection at Burning Man

By Todd Vickers 2017/09/14 2017/09/14 relationships

We live in a highly sexual culture that also idolizes utility (i.e., a means to an end). We tend to value things only based on what they lead to in the future. This commerce morality often mistakes the means for the end and, therefore, misses the end. To judge joy and sexual affection as a means is a degradation. We cannot judge the end by the same standards as the means because ends lead to nothing else. The immediate and transitory nature of Burning Man… Read More

Sexual Relationship Evolution

By Todd Vickers 2017/08/22 2017/08/22 sexual experience

Some of us look upon sexual relationship evolution with a fear or envy. Most of our grandparents would look upon our sexual relations today with disapproval, yet they passed on to us the genetic tendency to adapt. Today sexual relations are more fair then they were in the past, particularly for women, in spite of the need for more improvement. The sexual freedoms we enjoy today did not result from conformity, but from minorities that dared to try new things. We owe gratitude to those… Read More

Button Suggestions – Voting for 2017 BRC Burn

By Todd Vickers 2017/07/14 2017/07/14 Bureau of Erotic Discourse

The Bureau of Erotic Discourse seeks new ideas for the coveted pins to give away at Burning Man this year. Please offer your new button content suggestions in the comment section of this page below the images and up vote the content you would most like to see. Bureau of Erotic Discourse Buttons Read More

Love relationships sex non-monogamy doubting couple privilege

By Todd Vickers 2017/06/02 2017/06/02 Many Loves

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Five reasons ‘Couple privilege’ doesn’t exist By Lola Phoenix: Lola is a non-binary queer future best selling sci-fi/fantasy novelist in her late twenties. I’ve seen this concept floating around for a long time and I’ve always not really agreed with it or liked it, but it’s taken me awhile to sit down and explain my problem with this concept, why I think it’s inaccurate and what else should be used to describe some of what people usually use ‘ couple privilege ’ to describe. Reason 1:… Read More

Dispute monogamy for 5 more reasons

By Todd Vickers 2017/05/25 2017/05/25 Culture Critique

I dispute monogamy and I hope that my monogamous brothers and sisters understand that it is not just the failures of monogamy that provoke the contempt, ever perceptible in my writing. The world is imperfect and I accept the imperfections of society, yet I do not condone bad ideals or a society that refuses to realize the good ideals it possesses. We are always free to choose monogamy. Elsewhere I’ve published five very different reasons to question monogamy. I state plainly here that monogamy is a… Read More

What we think about love, sex and art changes things

By Todd Vickers 2017/05/11 2017/05/11 relationships

In the west the propaganda of religion is probably not as pervasive as are the songs, representations, and symbolism about love. We know how different religious influences change the interpretation of a fact. Now consider how everyone is a philosopher about love over coffee, but most people, do not want their love philosophies scrutinized. Most love philosophies are not concerned with the truth, but with a means to some other end. Our beliefs change what we see, it is a weakness of the immense conceptual power… Read More

Changing our views of love

By Todd Vickers 2017/05/08 2017/05/09 video

Love like water. Instead of saying we have different kinds of love, such as, one kind for friends, another for family, and another then lovers. I ask, what if we have only one love that takes different forms, like the way water conforms itself to the present situation? If love like water resonates with you, rather than trying to pour our love into containers shaped like our ideals that assume what love should be. Instead, I suggest, we hold standards of harm that tell us… Read More

Sex Education | Video with John Oliver

By Todd Vickers 2017/05/02 2017/05/02 Culture Critique

Once again the inimitable John Oliver exposes the weakness of American abstinance sex eduducation and with humor at the end, offers his own sex education video. Watch and enjoy. Photo of John Oliver By TechCrunch – The 7th Annual Crunchies Awards on February 10, 2014 in San Francisco, CC BY 2.0, https://commons.wikimedia.org/w/index.php?curid=45899540 Read More

Author: Todd Vickers