I am seventy-one but I discovered my orgasm at twenty-five and enjoyed a great deal of orgasmic sex in the years … Read More
“How to find new life? You follow the impulses toward a better life, even when it’s hard. That is what I do, and … Read More
If we’ve felt great pain in past relationships, we probably have some strong beliefs or biased love based on those impressions. How can we go beyond our … Read More
At the age of nine, the death of my beloved sister before she turned twenty taught me something about relationships and this lesson extends to sexual … Read More
By Todd Vickers
We will probably face fear or prejudice, including our own, when we dare to cross the frontiers of personal and social bias to explore sexual kindness. We hold dear, … Read More
Our desire, our aspiration for a better life is beautiful. It makes us bold and willing to risk and with risk comes both failure and discovery, both have their own value. We … Read More
By Todd Vickers
How can we say ‘yes’ to life and not be attached to the people, things, events and outcomes. Non attachment is a vague notion … Read More
If we learned we should achieve something through sex, other than the instinctive joy, then we learned sex is a means to an end. Even sex to have children, is sex as a means, … Read More
The impulse to a more relaxed and open sexuality is not merely instinctive, but also moral. We see this (re)emerging morality* in conflict with established customs, … Read More
The question is not what form the love takes but THAT we love consciously.
Love is not a routine and cannot be reduced to a preconceived idea without killing it.
Todd Vickers writing for Street Articles.
“The question we’re considering here – How to avoid the terrible and unnecessary emotional conflict arising from fictional ideas about others or ourselves? Anyone with a functioning mind can fall into the … Read More
Todd Vickers Published at Street Articles
“We miss higher values if we habitually (unconsciously) judge according to goals. A dear friend, who I will call Gregg, described meeting a young woman. On the couch, their honesty orbited sex. Her beauty induced his longing, … Read More
When art conforms to our ideals of beauty, we call it beautiful. We go beyond our present categories when we ask, ‘can anything beautiful exist beyond my ideas about beauty?’ I answer, YES!
Art throughout history shows immense variance and delightfully … Read More
By Paula Wright
Unpoisoning the Well
In my research, I interrogate orthodox feminist concepts, such as patriarchy, objectification, gender power differentials, mating systems and psychosexual differences using humour and evolutionary explanatory models such as sexual selection, parental investment theory, mutual mate choice, female … Read More
Todd’s newest article is now live at Elephant Journal
The goal here is to see flaws in our beliefs so we need not be punished by facts.
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If you take the prediction and control out of commitment, what is left?
Moreover, every disappointed commitment is built on a set of justifications that failed. Before you buy another bag of magic beans, why not meet with … Read More
How about a cougar awareness month, or better, let’s have a cougar awareness life! Yes, these women can do many other things too, but do not marginalize the loving. In a world with so much mature and harmless longing, there … Read More
How many beliefs about love are worth their upkeep and defense? Many beliefs rest on circumstances that must change, after all, that is what circumstances do. When we seek particular ‘results’ we turn our lovers into a means to an … Read More
How to find your passion? If we remove what is lewd from the definition of lust, we get a fire of passion! Let’s stoke this fire, as hot as we like. Let us warm the whole house! But … Read More