Consciously orgasmic at 71 – ongoing discovery

Conscious sexualityConscious sexualityI am seventy-one but I discovered my orgasm at twenty-five and enjoyed a great deal of orgasmic sex in … Read More

Todd Vickers writing at Vivriti.org – Freedom – Women’s day

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What is Freedom

A donkey chooses to pursue a carrot dangled in front of its face and thereby pulls the … Read More

Bias in love

biased lovebiased loveIf we’ve felt great pain in past relationships, we probably have some strong beliefs or biased love based on those impressions. How can we go … Read More

Don’t miss love

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At the age of nine, the death of my beloved sister before she turned twenty taught me something about relationships and this lesson … Read More

Sexual Kindness

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We will probably face fear or prejudice, including our own, when we dare to cross the frontiers of personal and social bias to explore sexual kindness. We … Read More

Aspiration for a better life (and better sex)

better life better sexbetter life better sexOur desire, our aspiration for a better life is beautiful. It makes us bold and willing to risk and with risk comes both failure and discovery, both have their own … Read More

Non attachment and love

non-attachmentnon-attachmentBy Todd Vickers

How can we say ‘yes’ to life and not be attached to the people, things, events and outcomes. Non attachment is a … Read More

Sex as an end unto itself

facebook-cover-nsisfacebook-cover-nsisIf we learned we should achieve something through sex, other than the instinctive joy, then we learned sex is a means to an end. Even sex to have children, is sex as … Read More

Non-monogamy, a growing morality

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The impulse to a more relaxed and open sexuality is not merely instinctive, but also moral. We see this (re)emerging morality* in conflict with … Read More

How you love is up to you

The question is not what form the love takes but THAT we love consciously.

Love is not a routine and cannot be reduced to a preconceived idea without killing it.

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Stop Crashing Into Lovers

noshameinsex.comnoshameinsex.comTodd Vickers writing for Street Articles.

“The question we’re considering here – How to avoid the terrible and unnecessary emotional conflict arising from fictional ideas about others or ourselves? Anyone with a functioning mind can fall … Read More

What Death Teaches Us About Lovers, Friends And Family

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“We miss higher values if we habitually (unconsciously) judge according to goals. A dear friend, who I will call Gregg, described meeting a young woman. On the couch, their honesty orbited sex. Her beauty induced … Read More

Art as Metaphor for Love

Giulio_Romano_-_The_Lovers_-_WGA09611Giulio_Romano_-_The_Lovers_-_WGA09611When art conforms to our ideals of beauty, we call it beautiful. We go beyond our present categories when we ask, ‘can anything beautiful exist beyond my ideas about beauty?’ I answer, YES!

Art throughout history shows immense variance … Read More

Read-Darwinian Gender Studies

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Unpoisoning the Well

In my research, I interrogate orthodox feminist concepts, such as patriarchy, objectification, gender power differentials, mating systems and psychosexual differences using humour and evolutionary explanatory models such as sexual selection, parental investment theory, mutual mate … Read More

Read About Sexual Pitfalls at Elephant Journal

Thinking WomanThinking WomanTodd’s newest article is now live at Elephant Journal

How to Avoid 5 Sexual Pitfalls.

The goal here is to see flaws in our beliefs so we need not be punished by … Read More

Challenging Relationship Myths

Come HereCome HereIf you take the prediction and control out of commitment, what is left?

Moreover, every disappointed commitment is built on a set of justifications that failed. Before you buy another bag of magic beans, why not … Read More

Celebrate Mature Women, Who Want

Milf AwarenessMilf AwarenessHow about a cougar awareness month, or better, let’s have a cougar awareness life! Yes, these women can do many other things too, but do not marginalize the loving. In a world with so much mature and harmless … Read More

Questionable Beliefs About Love

ThreesomeThreesomeHow many beliefs about love are worth their upkeep and defense? Many beliefs rest on circumstances that must change, after all, that is what circumstances do. When we seek particular ‘results’ we turn our lovers into a means … Read More

Lust Meaning, I’m on Fire

FireWoman5FireWoman5How to find your passion? If we remove what is lewd from the definition of lust, we get a fire of passion! Let’s stoke this fire, as hot as we like. Let us warm the whole … Read More