What we’ll do when when we feel turned on

when we feel turned onwhen we feel turned onWhen discussing heightened sexual states and what we’ll do when we feel turned on, let’s look at sex as something like … Read More

Queer America: Now That Trump Will Be President

man-tearsman-tearsOriginally published at The Huffington Post 11/09/2016

“…we must hold each other as we piece ourselves back together, as we remember who we are ― who we have always been … Read More

Don’t miss love

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At the age of nine, the death of my beloved sister before she turned twenty taught me something about relationships and this lesson … Read More

Abusing a lovers empathy

Abusing lovers empathyAbusing lovers empathyWe cannot be convicted of abusing a lovers empathy with our self-created misery but we can still be guilty. Our ability to feel what we think is one of our conceptual powers. The mind … Read More

Sex education in Norway

Norway Sex Education Norway Sex Education Enjoy the video below of Norway sex education. America on the whole, can’t deal directly with the facts of the sex as an issue. … Read More

Sexual Kindness

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We will probably face fear or prejudice, including our own, when we dare to cross the frontiers of personal and social bias to explore sexual kindness. We … Read More

Aspiration for a better life (and better sex)

better life better sexbetter life better sexOur desire, our aspiration for a better life is beautiful. It makes us bold and willing to risk and with risk comes both failure and discovery, both have their own … Read More

Sex degraded by deceit

becoming-degradedbecoming-degradedThe cheating liar may or may not believe in monogamy, but they have the merit of seeing possibilities beyond monogamy. Their desire exists beyond … Read More

Reform socially NOT politically

politics-sexpolitics-sexBy Todd Vickers

Politics and sex can exist apart but those interested in sex should heed the 2016 election results. Since we shouldn’t rely … Read More

Non monogamy, when prejudice hides envy

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If we deny opportunities to love because we can’t conceive living  beyond monogamy, we may, among other things, be suffering envy.

The idea that we cannot have … Read More

Sex as part of a good life

big-beautybig-beautySex is not merely physical pleasure, there’s a wonder, like that of a child seeing a butterfly alight on their outstretched hand, or being barefoot in a creek, with mud in … Read More

Fighting and texting

dont-fight-in-text1dont-fight-in-text1It’s so easy to thoughtlessly shoot off a text or email in a digital world. But we can’t see the others face, their anger, their tears or misunderstanding so we have no … Read More

Abuse of honesty in relationships

feelings-impactfeelings-impactThe honesty facade is real honesty; it’s a rigorously honest description, but it also hides something that is factually true. I devoted a whole … Read More

Non attachment and love

non-attachmentnon-attachmentBy Todd Vickers

How can we say ‘yes’ to life and not be attached to the people, things, events and outcomes. Non attachment is a … Read More

Sexual deprivation and deceitful seduction

instinctive-joy2instinctive-joy2How many of our sexual beliefs result from conforming to or rebelling against arbitrary, indirect and unrelated suggestions? Things like a belief or a product that our sexuality could easily exist without.

Let’s consider letting go … Read More

What Desires Are Politically Important?

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Bertrand Russell – Nobel Lecture

Your Royal Highness, Ladies and Gentlemen,

I have chosen this subject for my lecture tonight … Read More

Sex as an end unto itself

facebook-cover-nsisfacebook-cover-nsisIf we learned we should achieve something through sex, other than the instinctive joy, then we learned sex is a means to an end. Even sex to have children, is sex as … Read More

Other benefits of non-monogamy

oral-hygeneoral-hygeneThe tertiary benefits of open sexuality might easily be forgotten. The intensity of emotion that may, at times, needlessly drain into drama or fictional fears can also give vitality … Read More

A monogamous irony

one-on-oneone-on-oneWould you like to see some different views that challenge beliefs about sex? We’ve got articles, videos, slide shows and memes you can peruse, contemplate, share and comment about. Consider a four part series … Read More