Questioning Monogamy

Every time someone cheats, every monogamous person who doesn’t consider purchased or oral sex and so on to be cheating, we have reason to question monogamy.

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An unsatisfied selfish demand

An expectation is not the measure of abuse.

How do we know if we are a victim?

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Sex relationship myths

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Our difficulty with sexual relationships may not be a defect in ourselves or others but rather a problem born of our unquestioned beliefs. Watch the short video and then ask … Read More

Sexual obsession is relating to the mind

3J6B15703J6B1570Here is a video I recently made in India. Ashwini asked about sexual obsession. In India obsession sometimes leads to acid attacks. If you like the video, check out our other clips and subscribe.

 

 

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Stop Crashing Into Lovers

noshameinsex.comnoshameinsex.comTodd Vickers writing for Street Articles.

“The question we’re considering here – How to avoid the terrible and unnecessary emotional conflict arising from fictional ideas about others or ourselves? Anyone with a functioning mind can fall … Read More

What Death Teaches Us About Lovers, Friends And Family

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“We miss higher values if we habitually (unconsciously) judge according to goals. A dear friend, who I will call Gregg, described meeting a young woman. On the couch, their honesty orbited sex. Her beauty induced … Read More

Cheating and Honest Non-Monogamy

pink vest2pink vest2I recently shared food with two women who both cheated on past lovers and felt pain about their conduct. Both now live candidly in non-monogamous circumstances and feel better for the change. I know non-monogamous men who feel the same way. These people … Read More

She Lives in Secret

Secret Woman 2Secret Woman 2We can’t pick her out of a crowd, she who lives in secret. As the eyes of her teachers stabbed with disapproval, she learned to show what they would not condemn. And sometimes her sisters were as mean. She … Read More

Is Monogamy Over? A Reply

TIMEcover girlsTIMEcover girlsThe headline ‘Is monogamy over?’ emblazoned TIME Magazine’s September 21, 2015 issue.

Feeling skeptical, I bought it. Its brevity trifled with the subject.

Biologist David Barash has suggested that monogamy conflicts with our biology. However, he also states … Read More

Art as Metaphor for Love

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Art throughout history shows immense variance … Read More

Self and Orgasm

WEB Kabir Front CoverWEB Kabir Front CoverAn understanding through ecstasy.

“If we can’t let go of our self, orgasm becomes difficult. In the ecstasy of love, the mental specter of our self … Read More

Read-Darwinian Gender Studies

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Unpoisoning the Well

In my research, I interrogate orthodox feminist concepts, such as patriarchy, objectification, gender power differentials, mating systems and psychosexual differences using humour and evolutionary explanatory models such as sexual selection, parental investment theory, mutual mate … Read More

5 Reasons to Question Monogamy at Elephant Journal

Let’s Sketch of a ClasicSketch of a Clasiclook at both monogamy and commitment with fresh eyes and consider five reasons to question both cultural ideas.

Let’s not oversimplify the deceit exemplified by Ashley Madison. Widespread cheating suggests sexual impulses exist beyond monogamy.

Many arguments against freer sexuality provoke fear and even persecution exemplified in slut shaming, honor killings and LGBT harassment.

The discovery … Read More

Friendly Sexual Connections

Newest CartNewest CartThe benefits of plural and open sexual friendships cannot be measured nor should the benefits be underestimated. Consider how often commercials and political propaganda invoke our sexual instincts. A chicken broods on a wooden egg and our instincts … Read More

Read About Sexual Pitfalls at Elephant Journal

Thinking WomanThinking WomanTodd’s newest article is now live at Elephant Journal

How to Avoid 5 Sexual Pitfalls.

The goal here is to see flaws in our beliefs so we need not be punished by … Read More

Gay in Cuba – Hardship and Love

Frank & TonyFrank & TonyThe confrontation between Tony and the man who infected him, to protect others, touches the heart as does the whole article. Recommended Reading…

Two hours into our first meeting, I knew that Francisco … Read More

Non Monogamous Instinct

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A little slide show examining common views about non-monogamy. The sexual revolution has yet to begin.

 

 

 

 

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