Love like water.
Instead of saying we have different kinds of love, such as, one kind for friends, another for family, and another … Read More
Author Todd Vickers writes at Elephant Journal and looks critically at slut shaming.
The good things around sex often … Read More
Sex is an event like an eclipse. Beliefs about events confuse us because beliefs induce emotions and changes in our behavior. During an eclipse our terrified ancestors made loud noises … Read More
If you are wise and find it unacceptable when truth opposes a craving, you understand “integrity” serves no purpose unless it achieves our desire. Doubtless, some “square” will tell us this pragmatic approach supposes we don’t need to adapt to facts of life. … Read More
A man risks the accusation, sometimes correctly, of objectifying women when discussing either sexual joy or desire. Male shaming may occur even if the … Read More
The fact that it took me almost twenty five years to realize I was a female sex tourist is not a defense.
Check the screaming tabloids and anti-prostitution literature to confirm that sex tourism is totally unacceptable. Zero tolerance.
Flash back to Cuba 1978. I was a 25-year old teacher working on a fly-in Indian reserve in … Read More
Sacrificing for an Imagined Good
When we believe the “right” relationship will secure good circumstances, we assume we know today what this bond should look like in the future. When … Read More
Don’t condemn body desires
We are double-dealing with body pleasures if we speak of them in dreadful tones. We take risks with sex but the same is true of driving. Let us disapprove of recklessness, not varieties of joy rendered safe through intelligence. When … Read More
The concept of normal people. If we have little or no interest in sex we may withhold that information from most people. If we have desires other than the customary, we probably tend to keep those private. These strategic … Read More