I want to talk about identity as perhaps the most important and often overlooked part of going beyond jealousy. Let us ask “who” gets jealous. If we will look at our own self-concept, the questions around this destructive emotion change. … Read More
Sacrificing for an Imagined Good
When we believe the “right” relationship will secure good circumstances, we assume we know today what this bond should look like in the future. When … Read More
Don’t condemn body desires
We are double-dealing with body pleasures if we speak of them in dreadful tones. We take risks with sex but the same is true of driving. Let us disapprove of recklessness, not varieties of joy rendered safe through intelligence. When … Read More
Authority insisted that relaxed sexual freedom must be illegitimate. They built a fence around a birthright with shame. Then through the custom, they sell you a constrained pleasure.
We appease the uncomfortable sexual limits of tradition … Read More