Unreasonable Respect For Old Relationship Beliefs

Why would I say there is unreasonable respect for old relationship beliefs?

At a party, a woman lamented that she had to divide all her assets twice in two divorces. She said the next time she gets married, the man will have more stuff than her. When three people asked why she would get married again, she replied in a circular way, “I’m just the marrying type.” And the conversation ended since there seemed no point. If someone answered the question, why do you … Read More

What Are Confused Sexual Ideals?

Confused Sexual IdealsConfused Sexual IdealsA great deal of confused sexual ideals and misunderstanding exists around relationships and what we want. This topic is meaningful to both joy … Read More

Without holding back

Without holding back

Share the love while you can, without holding back. One day we will not be able to share it and then it’s too late. Use intelligence to make loving harmless.

How to compare loving non-monogamy versus codependent monogamy

loving non-monogamyloving non-monogamyThe desire to know and share what’s true, to share what’s best in life, to love wholly without restraint, to live intensely! These values did not arise … Read More

Boldly Vulnerable Sexual Affection at Burning Man

Sexual AffectionSexual AffectionWe live in a highly sexual culture that also idolizes utility (i.e., a means to an end). We tend to value … Read More

What we think about love, sex and art changes things

about loveabout loveIn the west the propaganda of religion is probably not as pervasive as are the songs, representations, and symbolism about love. We know how different religious … Read More

How to question love ideals | By Todd Vickers at Vivriti.org

Love idealsLove idealsIntimate relationships and love ideals are a touchy topic anywhere, but the consequences of marriage, relationship breakups, and vengeance for rejection should make … Read More

How to truthfully have intimate relationship | Todd Vickers via Vivriti.org

intimate relationshipintimate relationshipExcerpt: “…To be unaware of how we conceive intimate relationship leads to treating our questionable beliefs as fact. Let’s look at some problems and then … Read More

Understanding Relationships Nurturing Love | Todd Vickers writes for Vivriti.org

Understanding RelationshipsUnderstanding RelationshipsUnderstanding relationships means understanding pain. This is vital if we wish to bring relief to useless suffering. To reduce useless pain is Read More

Love wants to live

Love wants to liveLove wants to liveWe want love. Many of us will say that it’s one of the most important things in our lives. Love wants to … Read More

Renouncing the limits of love | Todd Vickers on Vivriti.org

renouncing loves limitsrenouncing loves limitsWhy aren’t we renouncing loves limits? “Who do you know who does not place a boundary around his love? We are … Read More

Lovers in friendship vs. being a player

I use the phrase ‘friendly sex’ because the term ‘casual sex‘ is cliché, and leads to confusion. I suggest a lovers friendship in consenting pleasure is better when we … Read More

An allegory applied to relationships

Relationship allegoryRelationship allegoryImagination is risky when we fill in the unknown. Below is an ancient story I use as a relationship allegory that exposes the mistake of thinking we know … Read More