I want to talk about identity as perhaps the most important and often overlooked part of going beyond jealousy. Let us ask “who” gets jealous. If we will look at our own self-concept, the questions around this destructive emotion change. … Read More
By Todd Vickers
At times, the wonders of curvy women seem overlooked. This regrettable fad harms both men and women and I hope my experience will help open some minds. However, stating any attraction to women involves sexist hazards, booby traps if you … Read More
A man risks the accusation, sometimes correctly, of objectifying women when discussing either sexual joy or desire. Male shaming may occur even if the … Read More
My Orgasm, By Sharon Dalzell
At twenty five I had yet to experience an orgasm try as I might with a willing partner. I was fed up with wondering what the big fuss was about sex. I … Read More
The first time I ever saw a cathartic orgasm I was quite concerned. Should I ring the ambulance or hope it passes? ‘Cathartic orgasm’, by the way, is a phrase I coined to describe orgasms that have the same signs and symptoms as shock – light-headed-ness or a feeling of passing out, restlessness, … Read More
People believe there can be no love in a relationship without some forecast.
As if, biological or emotional aspects of human beings mysteriously cease to function without prediction.
When we consider the many failures of commitment, doubt … Read More
The fact that it took me almost twenty five years to realize I was a female sex tourist is not a defense.
Check the screaming tabloids and anti-prostitution literature to confirm that sex tourism is totally unacceptable. Zero tolerance.
Flash back to Cuba 1978. I was a 25-year old teacher working on a fly-in Indian reserve in … Read More
Jealousy needs to be distinguished from envy as the fear of losing a person viewed as a possession. Envy springs from desire … Read More
How to Deal With Jealousy
Pleasures rendered harmless through intelligence can liberate wonderful unnoticed possibilities. When a person desires more than one … Read More
Not everyone who is not monogamous has the temperament for open relationships. Yet, many have a disposition for deceit, those who are pretending to the custom. I support responsible open sexuality and do not mean to discourage this … Read More
“Women are often treated badly when something wild becomes public. Look through the telescope revealing that custom isn’t the center of the universe. If you … Read More
Sacrificing for an Imagined Good
When we believe the “right” relationship will secure good circumstances, we assume we know today what this bond should look like in the future. When … Read More
Don’t condemn body desires
We are double-dealing with body pleasures if we speak of them in dreadful tones. We take risks with sex but the same is true of driving. Let us disapprove of recklessness, not varieties of joy rendered safe through intelligence. When … Read More
Women are touchy about this issue. Though men have body concept problems I think women learn to judge their bodies by a much harsher standard than men. … Read More
The concept of normal people. If we have little or no interest in sex we may withhold that information from most people. If we have desires other than the customary, we probably tend to keep those private. These strategic … Read More
Authority insisted that relaxed sexual freedom must be illegitimate. They built a fence around a birthright with shame. Then through the custom, they sell you a constrained pleasure.
We appease the uncomfortable sexual limits of tradition … Read More