Go Beyond Jealousy

On jealousy by Todd VickersOn jealousy by Todd VickersI want to talk about identity as perhaps the most important and often overlooked part of going beyond jealousy. Let us ask “who” gets jealous. If we will look at our own self-concept, the questions around this destructive … Read More

How I Had A Big Ass Conversion

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At times, the wonders of curvy women seem overlooked. This regrettable fad harms both men and women and I hope my experience will help open some minds. However, stating any attraction to women involves sexist hazards, booby traps if you … Read More

How a Man Discusses Sex in the Shadow of Sexism

Benjamin West - Cymon and Iphigenia 1766Benjamin West - Cymon and Iphigenia 1766A man risks the accusation, sometimes correctly, of objectifying women when discussing either sexual joy or desire. Male shaming may occur even if the … Read More

How I Found My Orgasm, Then Started Cumming in Color

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At twenty five I had yet to experience an orgasm try as I might with a willing partner. I was fed up with wondering what the big fuss was about sex. I … Read More

Cathartic Orgasms

Cathartic OrgasmsCathartic OrgasmsThe first time I ever saw a cathartic orgasm I was quite concerned.  Should I ring the ambulance or hope it passes?  ‘Cathartic orgasm’, by the way, is a phrase I coined to describe orgasms that have the same signs and symptoms as shock – light-headed-ness or a feeling of passing out, restlessness, … Read More

Commitment Involves Prediction

LargeLeftSideGirlLargeLeftSideGirlPeople believe there can be no love in a relationship without some forecast.

As if, biological or emotional aspects of human beings mysteriously cease to function without prediction.

When we consider the many failures of commitment, doubt … Read More

Confessions of a Female Sex Tourist

Jodi HansonJodi HansonThe fact that it took me almost twenty five years to realize I was a female sex tourist is not a defense.

Check the screaming tabloids and anti-prostitution literature to confirm that sex tourism is totally unacceptable. Zero tolerance.

Flash back to Cuba 1978. I was a 25-year old teacher working on a fly-in Indian reserve in … Read More

How to Deal With Jealousy

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Pleasures rendered harmless through intelligence can liberate wonderful unnoticed possibilities. When a person desires more than one … Read More

Discovering You Are Not Monogamous

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Not everyone who is not monogamous has the temperament for open relationships. Yet, many have a disposition for deceit, those who are pretending to the custom. I support responsible open sexuality and do not mean to discourage this … Read More

Hobbled Hearts Part 2

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When we believe the “right” relationship will secure good circumstances, we assume we know today what this bond should look like in the future. When … Read More

Hobbled Hearts Part 1

Hobbled Hearts Hobbled Hearts Don’t condemn body desires

We are double-dealing with body pleasures if we speak of them in dreadful tones. We take risks with sex but the same is true of driving. Let us disapprove of recklessness, not varieties of joy rendered safe through intelligence. When … Read More

Women’s Self Concept

body conceptbody conceptWomen are touchy about this issue. Though men have body concept problems I think women learn to judge their bodies by a much harsher standard than men.  … Read More

What Do You Mean by Normal People

Normal PeopleNormal PeopleThe concept of normal people. If we have little or no interest in sex we may withhold that information from most people. If we have desires other than the customary, we probably tend to keep those private. These strategic  … Read More

Marriage Industrial Complex

Pleasure is bad unless...Pleasure is bad unless...Authority insisted that relaxed sexual freedom must be illegitimate. They built a fence around a birthright with shame. Then through the custom, they sell you a constrained pleasure.

We appease the uncomfortable sexual limits of tradition … Read More