I want to talk about identity as perhaps the most important and often overlooked part of going beyond jealousy. Let us ask “who” gets jealous. If we will look at our own self-concept, … Read More
A comic about rules, agreements and boundaries
“The question we’re considering here – How to avoid the terrible and unnecessary emotional conflict arising … Read More
“We miss higher values if we habitually (unconsciously) judge according to goals. A dear friend, who I will call Gregg, described meeting a young woman. On … Read More
I recently shared food with two women who both cheated on past lovers and felt pain about their conduct. Both now live candidly in non-monogamous circumstances and … Read More
We can’t pick her out of a crowd, she who lives in secret. As the eyes of her teachers stabbed with disapproval, she learned to show what they would … Read More
The headline ‘Is monogamy over?’ emblazoned TIME Magazine’s September 21, 2015 issue.
Feeling skeptical, I bought it. Its brevity trifled with the subject.
Biologist David Barash has suggested that monogamy conflicts with our biology. However, he … Read More
According to my friend, George, the American proverb that “even blind pigs can find an occasional acorn” is understated in Cambodia. “The ‘Kingdom Of Wonder’ – as Cambodia is advertised by the tourism board … Read More
Art throughout history … Read More
“If we can’t let go of our self, orgasm becomes difficult. In the ecstasy of love, the mental spectre of our self … Read More
By Paula Wright
Unpoisoning the Well
In my research, I interrogate orthodox feminist concepts, such as patriarchy, objectification, gender power differentials, mating systems and psychosexual … Read More
Let’s not oversimplify the deceit exemplified by Ashley Madison. Widespread cheating suggests sexual impulses … Read More
The benefits of plural and open sexual friendships cannot be measured nor should the benefits be underestimated. Consider how often commercials and political propaganda invoke our sexual instincts. … Read More
The confrontation between Tony and the man who infected him, to protect others, touches the heart as does the whole article. Recommended … Read More
A little slide show examining common views about non-monogamy. The sexual revolution has yet to begin.
The talk “Polyamory Without Pathos” at Saguaro Man went well. Such a deep subject is impossible to delve into properly in just an hour. Below, I will … Read More
Moreover, every disappointed commitment is built on a set of justifications that failed. Before … Read More
“The word excessive means something when talking of salt, sex or any experience. Even water … Read More
Mistaking means for ends in love is one of the worst and common mistakes. What we learned about love often makes our love pretentious, an insane dream-world that … Read More
The way we learn to judge our sex partners is questionable. We see our bias whenever ideal partnerships break up in spite of what seems … Read More
Let us let go of taboos when encountering poems. A lyricist mixes metaphors like a cook making soup. Before you taste … Read More
As I do on many mornings, I discuss with my beloved Sharon various topics, including sex, the morning news and our plans for the day. … Read More
Todd Vickers published The Relevance of Kabir at Smashwords. This eBook will soon be available at your favorite stores like Amazon, Barns … Read More
How about a cougar awareness month, or better, let’s have a cougar awareness life! Yes, these women can do many other things too, but do not marginalize the … Read More
How many beliefs about love are worth their upkeep and defense? Many beliefs rest on circumstances that must change, after all, that is what circumstances do. … Read More
Remember you don’t need to … Read More
How to find your passion? If we remove what is lewd from the definition of lust, we get a fire of passion! Let’s … Read More
What is commitment? If we say it is dedication to a cause or activity remember another person is not an idea or something … Read More
We can break out of old sexual beliefs and restrictions without being destructive.
Any education about sex or sex book should include observations about restraint. Good sex is better when we are more informed.
If we define slut in a denigrating way. Slut meaning to imagine a woman is outside of the custom sexually. We suffer from lousy reasoning. See … Read More
My criticism of abstisex education (abstinence only sex education) rests on these grounds. Censored education is reckless because it suggests that young people will make better decisions by being uninformed. This idea is a felony against intellectual … Read More
A wonderful PBS documentary about the Bonobo Ape. This make love not war, sex for joy sake creature, raises a question about ourselves. Not … Read More
I saw her in the temple, the same space that would be intentionally reduced to ashes in just a few hours. She was as nude as the day she first drew breath. The … Read More
The angst often associated with relationships may not be because a damn thing is wrong, but because the events are different than our expectations. The ability to let go of ideals … Read More
The honor we pay to fictional ideas about love and sex is simply customary, like the undeserved deference our ancestors felt they must pay to king and clergy. These ideas, even when false, have real power. Some … Read More