“If we can’t let go of our self, orgasm becomes difficult. In the ecstasy of love, the mental … Read More
The impulse to a more relaxed and open sexuality is not merely instinctive, but also moral. We see this … Read More
What do sex and climate change have in common? Both involve facts we sometimes feel tempted to ignore or alter them to … Read More
“Our powers of conception come with a risk. Again, we use thought like paint on the canvas of our minds, using our fears and wants … Read More
The arguments in favor of sexual freedom rest on similar grounds as freedom of speech. Our love is part of our … Read More
Painted Polyamory Problems
Probably the best way to illustrate what I’m doing with this art is to criticize it. One of the strongest objections to these paintings, they are all negative. They show problems, not solutions. Even the title of the show is negative – Love instead … Read More
Author Todd Vickers writes at Elephant Journal and looks critically at slut shaming.
The good things … Read More
Those with influence and interest will try to deny access to rainwater and then either sell it back to us or … Read More
Let us differentiate the inestimable benefits of accumulated knowledge from … Read More
If we were born elsewhere or in another time, we would have different beliefs including beliefs about sex. We have no obligation to … Read More
Before considering sexuality let’s remember, if we have a prejudice, we might feel uncomfortable seeing others going beyond the limits of … Read More
Sex doesn’t oppose truth. Delusion opposes truth. Delusion is different than having or not having sex.
Distinguish between sexual conformity, rebellion and hypocrisy. The conformist and rebel obey or disobey by degree, but the rule is the governing ideal. The hypocrite knows he … Read More
Sex is an event like an eclipse. Beliefs about events confuse us because beliefs induce emotions and changes in our behavior. … Read More
The question is not what form the love takes but THAT we love consciously.
Love is not a routine and cannot be reduced to a preconceived idea without killing it.
Every time someone cheats, every monogamous person who doesn’t consider purchased or oral sex and so on to be cheating, we have reason to question monogamy.
An expectation is not the measure of abuse.
How do we know if we are a victim?
Our difficulty with sexual relationships may not be a defect in ourselves or others but rather a problem born of … Read More
If you dislike hypocrisy, we should find each other.
Here is a video I recently made in India. Ashwini asked about sexual obsession. In India obsession sometimes leads to acid attacks. If you like the … Read More
A comic about rules, agreements and boundaries
“The question we’re considering here – How to avoid the terrible and unnecessary emotional conflict arising … Read More
“We miss higher values if we habitually (unconsciously) judge according to goals. A dear friend, who I will … Read More
I recently shared food with two women who both cheated on past lovers and felt pain about their conduct. Both now live candidly in non-monogamous circumstances and … Read More
We can’t pick her out of a crowd, she who lives in secret. As the eyes of her teachers stabbed with disapproval, she learned … Read More
Feeling skeptical, I bought it. Its brevity trifled with the subject.
Biologist … Read More
According to my friend, George, the American proverb that “even blind pigs can find an occasional acorn” is understated in Cambodia. “The ‘Kingdom Of Wonder’ – as Cambodia is advertised by the tourism board … Read More
When art conforms to our ideals of beauty, we call it beautiful. We go beyond our present categories when we ask, ‘can anything beautiful … Read More
By Paula Wright
Unpoisoning the Well
In my research, I interrogate orthodox feminist concepts, such as patriarchy, objectification, gender power differentials, mating systems and psychosexual … Read More
Let’s not oversimplify the deceit exemplified by Ashley Madison. Widespread cheating suggests sexual impulses … Read More
The benefits of plural and open sexual friendships cannot be measured nor should the benefits be underestimated. Consider how often commercials and political propaganda … Read More
The confrontation between Tony and the man who infected him, to protect others, touches the heart as does the whole article. Recommended … Read More
A little slide show examining common views about non-monogamy. The sexual revolution has yet to begin.
The talk “Polyamory Without Pathos” at Saguaro Man went well. Such a deep subject is impossible to delve into properly in just an hour. Below, … Read More
Moreover, every disappointed commitment is built on a set of … Read More
“The word excessive means something when talking of salt, sex or any experience. Even water … Read More
Mistaking means for ends in love is one of the worst and common mistakes. What we learned about love often makes our love pretentious, an insane … Read More
The way we learn to judge our sex partners is questionable. We see our bias whenever ideal partnerships break up in spite of what seems … Read More